Why Live

At times, I ponder if mere survival is already a formidable task, let alone attaining success and happiness, however one might define these elusive states.

Discovering a purpose in life is a challenging quest, especially for those who critically question the socially constructed paradigms of a fulfilling existence. I believe a psychologically satisfying life (note: this may not equate to a 'good' life) is comprised of an unending series of goal-oriented endeavors. Our minds must be persistently stimulated by incremental achievements, leaving no room to dwell on the profound, yet unanswerable question: "What is the ultimate purpose of all this?"

Jean-Paul Sartre, the renowned French philosopher, posited that humans are condemned to freedom, with our "existence preceding essence." This implies that we first exist, then seek meaning through actions and choices. Unlike a paper cutter, designed with a predetermined purpose, humans are not predestined for anything specific. We sculpt our identities through our choices and deeds – the decisions we make in a world devoid of fixed values are what truly define us.

Embracing this freedom can be daunting. Freedom doesn’t guide; it’s the limitations that offer direction. For young adults, filled with potential yet facing life's uncertainties, it’s common to feel lost, particularly for those who ponder the significance of their actions. Feelings of anxiety, boredom, stress, loneliness, and even depression are normal. Some may face mental health challenges. However, these emotions don’t necessarily reflect personal failings and might simply be a phase in life’s journey.

Our bodies fall ill, and so do our minds. Mental ailments can stem from various factors, just like physical ones. When our minds suffer, it’s a sign that they may need rest or support. Remember, there are often people ready to assist – professionals, friends, and empathetic souls. We should never hesitate to reach out.

Last summer marked a nadir of self-doubt and despair for me, but seeking guidance from someone I admired and trusted was pivotal in my recovery. His response to my existential quandaries offered no definitive answers but emphasized finding meaning in positively impacting others’ lives, whether on a grand scale or within intimate circles.

I don’t claim to have a sweeping philosophical solution to life’s questions. Instead, I find solace in psychology, which identifies factors contributing to happiness: nurturing fulfilling relationships, engaging in beloved activities, prioritizing experiences over material possessions, and helping others. While the pursuit of happiness may be an oversold concept, acknowledging and harmonizing with our negative emotions is just as vital.

In embracing our condemned freedom, as Sartre would say, we find that we are the sum of our actions. So why not explore this liberty with a sense of curiosity and fun, even as we learn to navigate its complexities?